If there is something that drives me up the wall, is when someone does
not have the decency to reply to correspondence. Even a ‘bugger off’ is better
than being ignored. This goes for all your channels of communication, emails,
WhatsApps, phone calls, SMS’ and even LinkedIn messages. There was a very
interesting article published by Forbes[1] describing rejection (which in
my opinion is the same as ignoring someone) and physical pain being the same
for your brain. Here is an excerpt from the article:
We
all know that rejection hurts, but neuroscience has concluded that it does in
fact, literally, hurt. While the brain does not process emotional pain and
physical pain identically, the reaction and cascading events are very
similar, and a natural chemical (painkiller mu-opioid)
is released during both events. For example, when someone feels physical pain,
opioids are released in the brain so that the significance of the pain is
inhibited. We now know this same experience occurs when an individual feels
slighted or rejected by others.
Everybody is busy. Everyone,
not just you. Sometimes a response back may need a bit of time, or you
genuinely do have a manic day where responding to texts or emails are just not
possible. We have all had those days. But at least let the person know and
acknowledge that you have received their correspondence and that you will get
back to them. Or, pull the plaster and just let the other person know that you
are not interested in hearing from them. Obviously do it in a non-kak way. It
will sting the other person a bit, but at least they will know where they stand
and won’t have to deal with the horrendous feeling of being blanked or keep
wasting their time of sending messages into a void that never gets
reciprocated.
My advice, don’t be kak. Just reply.
[1] Rejection And Physical Pain Are The Same To Your Brain
(forbes.com)
*Don't let your communication be kak!
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